There is a lot of talk about self-confidence, but it is rarely discussed, especially in the context of children, ignoring its meaning and significance.
Self-confidence means ‘personal impression’, meaning ‘what we think and feel about ourselves’. It is the thought and feeling that gives a person confidence in himself or inferiority complex.
As children get older, they begin to form opinions about themselves through the words and attitudes of others. Importantly, the words and attitudes of parents are most effective in forming children’s opinions.
Whether the child is an infant or on the verge of adolescence, emotions such as love and affection are the most important pillars for building self-confidence, it is up to the parents to give their child self-confidence.
Signs of low Self-confidence
- Avoiding new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
- Don’t trust their abilities
- Unnecessarily being influenced by others
- Get upset quickly
- Being defensive and afraid of criticism
- Repeatedly changing their appearance
- Avoiding social activities
Signs of better self-confidence
- Welcoming towards new and unfamiliar experiences and situations
- Be satisfied with their abilities and tasks
- Learning from mistakes
- Accepting constructive criticism
- Be confident in their outfit
How does self-confidence affect children?
Self-confidence helps children in a variety of contexts and spheres, such as children’s behaviour, their personal energy, and their peers’ coping with stress, as well as their learning, personal and It is also important for physical development and creativity.
In addition, setting goals, reaching them, making decisions and solving problems is not possible without self-confidence.
How can parents instil self-confidence in their children?
The first step towards self-confidence is to create a loving and caring environment, through which the foundation can be laid to improve the child’s ‘personal impression’, for which the following 4 important things need to be done.
1- Relationship full of respect
Self-confidence is actually the name of self-respect and personal value. The most important thing you can do as a parent is to respect yourself, your spouse and your child.
Respect your child’s choices, opinions and personal belongings, give them two or more options instead of imposing your will on them, as well as giving children negative nicknames, rejections.
Connect children with their positive family traditions so that they can feel strong and proud, remember that recognizing and respecting children’s individuality will also teach them to respect the preferences of others.
A good relationship is essential for self-confidence and communication is a basic requirement for a good relationship.
Really listen to your children because children are not stupid and when you are pretending to listen they understand.
Communicate home rules and regulations to your children through appropriate words and accents and communicate them to your children through your actions.
3- Expression of love and affection
Expressing love and affection for children, whether in a series of words or in a hug, nod, or any other physical way, is essential for children’s self-confidence.
It is important to spend time with the children, whether it is for 15 or 20 minutes every day, focusing on the children’s issues and events instead of your own.
4 – Encouragement
Praise words and behaviours are a relatively complex process, sometimes parents make the child emotionally sensitive by over-praising, the key principle of praise and encouragement is to do it when you really want to do it when the child needs it.
Let the child know how happy you are with his or her accomplishments, give feedback on the child’s unique abilities and qualities.
Praise them for doing small chores around the house and avoid negative comments when they aren’t.
Don’t compare children with other peers, siblings, etc. It is an indication that they can never be as good as them.
Remember that it is not easy to instil self-confidence in children, however parents will be able to build self-confidence in their children slowly but surely with their behaviour and the above measures and tools.